Self Acceptance

Often times we are confronted by another person’s behaviour and we think that their actions place them in “the wrong”. What is actually happening? To assume that another person is wrong means that we are essentially right. It means we have the answer when the other is mistaken.

Just as my opinion varies from the next person, the personal relationship to right and wrong is very much individual. We can be going along in our lives thinking and feeling great about ourselves and our actions, while others may see us in another light altogether. They may even be offended by our actions, when the intention is good..

When we try to protect others from our actions, we make the mistake of operating under another person’s will. The true is that people will perceive our actions depending on what they are willing to see. Understanding where an other person is coming from can help a relationship along.

It is not our business to make another person feel a certain way, nor to control their reactions to what we do. People perceive what they will. But if the effect on one person is unanimously felt, and feedback from many people is the same, there is information to be had.

More often than not, it is a matter of learning to let go of resistance, and people who are resistors, for good. Why else would such people be attracted into our lives, if not to learn of the power of forgiveness.

There is a way to be in harmony with a person that mirrors resistance for us. It is as if magically our letting go changes the other person, such that we realize it was our perception that was resistant all along.

Most people try to change others as a means towards peace. If peace is the end, such an effort can never be the means, for such an attempt is in err, and neglects the real reason why we feel disturbed in the first place.

To want to change another person is to willingly defy God. This is so, as people are placed into our lives that we are meant to be with, who portray negative qualities we would like to change, when in reality the lesson for us is to recognize that our relationship with this person is a trial for which we owe the karmic debt of our lives. Here we are granted the opportunity to change our perception of that person by exercising our own free will, and make choices that are more in the spirit of acceptance, love, or whatever the lesson is for us to learn.

The short cut to overcoming negativity is to choose the positive. If we are being presented with negative behaviour from other, it is simply a matter of choosing the positive for ourselves. This is much easier, and far more rewarding, than forcing “better” behaviour on another.

As we get more in touch with the underlying mysticism of our lives we become enthralled by the vast source of information that is present. The opportunity to expand our consciousness is infinite, limited only by our own unwillingness to let God into our lives and make miracles happen.